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Self-criticism as motivation. Shame as a strategy. I tried that route for years. The logic, if you could call it that, was simple — if I was hard enough on myself, disgusted enough with my own shortcomings, eventually I'd be so uncomfortable in my own skin that I'd have no choice but to change. Guess what? It never worked the way I thought it would.

I want to tell you something before we go any further, before I even get to the part where I explain what this space is going to be. I almost didn’t do this. Not because I didn’t have things to say. I’ve had things to say for years, actually tucked into notes app drafts and half-finished journal entries and long voice memos to myself in the car with the radio off. I didn’t do this because starting something new at this point in life felt, honestly, a little ridiculous. Forty-